Something wonderful is happening in this era of my life. I have been undergoing a metamorphosis of sorts. The caterpillar inside of me is breaking out of its cocoon and spreading its beautiful butterfly wings. Cheesy metaphor, I know, but please bear with me.

It seems like just yesterday I was writing this post about approaching my 30th birthday. Now that I’m officially in my thirties (turning 31 in less than a week) I’m really beginning to notice some changes in myself. I’m not talking about the occasional appearance of gray hairs (before I pluck or dye those suckers), or even the fact that I don’t have quite the same amount of stamina that I used to have. Nope. The changes I’m focused on are deeper than that.

I feel more confident in both a personal and professional capacity. I’m not as shy when it comes to communicating my needs or my talents. There’s a Dr. Seuss quote that has always been very meaningful to me and now I take it to heart even more. “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Great words to live by.

Criticism has always been, and probably always will be, a challenge for me but I am starting to let certain criticisms roll off my back more easily. Since I feel more comfortable and confident in myself and my decisions, it’s easier to do so.

I have an easier time accepting the fact that not everyone is going to want to be my friend, or even like me. I really used to stress myself out trying to get approval from others as if that would provide me with some sort of validation.

I appreciate the freedom, and ability, to say no to (some) things. I’m learning that you can’t make everyone happy all the time. And you know what? That’s ok.

I’m getting better at graciously accepting compliments from others whereas I used to brush them off thinking that they were “just being nice.” I had a hard time feeling worthy. I’m finally beginning to realizing just how worthy I am.

I’m really happy with where I am in life right now, although my journey is not complete by any means. To quote one of my all-time favorite bands (Aerosmith), “Life’s a journey not a destination.” And right now, I’m really enjoying this journey and the progress I’ve made. I’m ready to show off these wings of mine!

What about all of you lovely ladies out there who are in your thirties and beyond? Did you notice similar changes in yourself?

This is me folks! Take it or leave it. (Photo Credit: Erin Pollard)
This is me folks! Take it or leave it. (Photo Credit: Erin Pollard)


10 thoughts on “Metamorphosis

  1. What a great post and a gorgeous photo! Love the lipstick girl! I have recently switched jobs and noticed quite a difference in my confidence level. Several years ago (in my 20s) I would not have been as comfortable starting a new job. Good for you!

  2. Good for you, Carly! I have also noticed many changes in myself during my 30’s. Age is part of it, but also motherhood! As my confidence has grown, my level of caring about stuff that doesn’t matter has shrunk, and my filter has all but disappeared. It is great – I am definitely more content and much kinder to myself these days.

  3. Over these past six years of friendship, I’ve watched you go from newlywed, to mother (twice!) to a businesswoman (!) with the courage to follow her passions, and i have to say that i am just so very proud of you, and you really are an inspiration and source of support. I can’t wait to see what these next six years and beyond bring for you.

  4. Yah 30’s!! This is what I’ve been saying for the past year and a half since I turned 30. This post made me smile Carly because I can see those changes in you as well. I was actually just mentioning that to Grammie and Grampie the other day how I notice you smiling much more often lately:) Sending lots of love and even more feelings of confidence and empowerment your way as I think about you today:) Love you so much and I’ll see you tomorrow at family dinner!

  5. I LOVE THIS! I’m so so happy for you that you’re in a great place. I also adore that photo – just love it! My sister-in-law always told me she enjoys her 30’s much more than her 20’s, sounds like you are too!

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