Three years ago, in a somewhat symbolic manner, I put my husband Antonio to rest in order to welcome his female version, Tamara. I wrote a letter… Read more “The only way out is through”
We are at a critical point. We have a chance to step forward, to become a more accepting, loving, supportive, unified society. But change is scary, difference is scary, religious books are open to interpretation, especially by megalomaniacs who profit off the fear and division they can sow in others, and politicians like to sound like they know what they’re talking about. It’s a messy, loud, sometimes chaotic sort of progress, and one that puts a vulnerable community in the crosshairs.
My friend Natalie and I have a lot in common. We love fashion and makeup and manis and pedis. We love the summer and give each other… Read more “Growing Up Transgender: Thoughts, Advice, and Hope”
Something very special happened today. I went to my girls’ school to drop off paperwork for my older daughter, and I saw my younger daughter on the… Read more “community makes a world of difference”
I sometimes wonder how those men who live double lives with a family in two different cities do it. How do they keep it all straight? I… Read more “Authentic Life in Aisle Three”
The journey of a transgender child isn’t a smooth one, even if that child is lucky enough to have an accepting family and community. There is a… Read more “transition isn’t just for kids”
As parents, we all have checklists running in the backs of our minds pretty much all the time. Usually in the form of questions. Did everyone remember… Read more “Parenting an uncharted path”
When I look back at my parenting life, I don’t see pivotal moments standing out as the sea change of our lives. Sure, every once in a while life changes in the blink of an eye and you don’t see it coming. But more often, for every pivotal moment we have experienced, there have been months and years of signs leading up to that moment.
A few months back, I was fortunate to attend a panel presentation featuring four locals who are part of the transgender community. Three were transgender individuals and… Read more “Sometimes I even surprise myself”