Disasters in Dating and Cheese Crackers

Dating as a single mom is way more difficult than I anticipated it would be.  First, you need to find someone that you find attractive (physically, emotionally, intellectually). If the feeling is mutual, you have the added trial of figuring out if they are a good match for your kid. This is significantly harder.  And there is no easy way to do it.

All the Mom Fails

So, this parenting thing.  It’s a learning process for sure.  For her and for me.  I have to step up the teaching.  And not take it personally when she points out my missteps.  Because I’ll continue to make them.

Stage Three – We Can Do This

We certainly have had some missteps, in particular once my daughter started school in the fall. But we recover and hug it out. I made it a practice to stand my ground as a parent, but to do so as gently as possible. And to readily admit my mistakes when I made them.

The Pain of Mutually Divorcing

I never imagined the pain that would follow jointly making the decision to divorce. The decision was so raw, so authentic, so true, so right, so freeing. I felt high. I felt like my new life was in the palm of my hands, waiting to be molded. I never really thought about the pain that would creep up on me.

The Day I Got a Divorce

Within about 30 seconds of finding this out I was both sending texts and shouting, “yeah, I’m divorced!” and tears were streaming down my face. There was such a cacophony of emotion that I didn’t even know what to do with myself. Laugh or cry. Write or talk. Scream with joy or sadness.