No Really, I’m Sick.

You know what really annoys me? Anytime I’m sick, someone inevitably says, “uh oh, watch out, you might be pregnant”. Really?!? I might be having an unplanned pregnancy and this is how I’ve decided to discuss it, by mentioning I feel ill. Maybe, just maybe, I’m actually sick. I am a person after all, separate and distinct from my ability to give birth.

Wow…that felt good.

To get serious for a minute though, having blogged for ctworkingmoms.com for a while now, I have a much better understanding of the realities of miscarriage and how to be (and not be) sensitive. And, accusing a woman who is sick of being pregnant is not such a good idea. What if that woman is struggling to get pregnant or has recently experienced a miscarriage. It probably wouldn’t feel so good to have someone joke that she might be pregnant.

For me, it’s just plain annoying. My husband and I have decided that two children complete our family and so we will not be having another child. If I’m telling you I don’t feel well, it means I’m sick.

I’ve started thinking that the next time I’m sick and told I might be pregnant, instead of laughing awkwardly, I can discuss the IUD I had inserted into my uterus. That would be pleasant. Or, I can talk about how shocking it would be if in fact I were pregnant, seeing as I don’t want to expand my family. But that would be really personal and extremely uncomfortable.

…Sort of like being told you must be pregnant anytime you feel sick.

3 thoughts on “No Really, I’m Sick.

  1. “I’ve started thinking that the next time I’m sick and told I might be pregnant, instead of laughing awkwardly, I can discuss the IUD I had inserted into my uterus.” OH MY GOSH this line has me cracking up!

  2. Thank you for writing about this. As soon as a woman is married and marginally within the age of childbearing years, people feel some strange entitlement to discuss her family/child decisions. Right after I was married, any time I would decline an alcoholic drink at a social engagement, it would bring raised eyebrows or “accusations” of being pregnant. As someone who has suffered pregnancy loss, followed by a long time trying to get pregnant, those kind of comments can be unbelievably hurtful.

    1. Your welcome and thank you for commenting. Hope by talking about it we can change the way people feel entitled to discuss a stranger’s family/child decisions.

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