During the day, my job is to take care of our daughter. While I’m paid in spades in laughter and snuggles, the other benefits for stay at home moms are lacking – namely sick time (and a salary…and vacation time…and health benefits…even a lunch break…but that’s a conversation for another day).
I can remember it happening maybe two other times – one of those being when I felt like I might die from mastitis – where I needed my husband to stay home from work to take care of our daughter while I took care of myself. He needed to take time so I could take time.
Last week, an inexplicable illness struck. I still don’t know what I had, but I do know that I could hardly move I felt so crummy. And, with my husband unable to take time off this time, I had to call upon my in laws to take my daughter for the day while I got some rest. I’m fortunate to be able to do that.
It’s hard, though, as a stay at home mom to take that sick day; you need to rely on others to rearrange their day to give you some relief and an opportunity to take care of yourself. And if you’re like me, it’s hard to admit you need help and accept it. I suppose it’s really no different from when I worked in my “9-5” pre-baby; taking a sick day still meant putting projects and priorities on hold, maybe even cancelling a meeting or letting others down in some way; yet somehow it feels different as a mom, like it’s less acceptable for me to take “time off” from motherhood for a day than it was for me to let the emails pile up for an afternoon.
Still, sick days, paid or unpaid, are a necessary evil. Now, if someone could figure out how I could get a warm bite of food in at meal times, THAT I’d be grateful for.