Screamfest

No, this isn’t a Halloween post. It’s more like Psycho. Except there is no shower murder scene, only a screaming, royally pissed off toddler.

Dudes. Just. I don’t even know. Audrey is so awesome in so many ways I can’t even recite them all. I mean, I guess I could, but it would take forever. But the last few days have been pretty much torture because she randomly starts wailing over… a bib placement? the cushion she’s sitting on? a single strand of hair? the angle at which I’ve cut her banana? the air?! I DO NOT KNOW.

My husband insists Olivia went through this phase, but I’m pretty sure I’d remember this… this… HORROR SHOW.

Whatever it is that sets her off, sets her off and she becomes instantly inconsolable. I’m talking rolling around on the floor kicking and flailing and screaming at the top of her lungs. Sometimes you can make out words, “NO! THANK! YOUUUUUUUU!” So, I mean, points for being polite? But, I don’t even know what she’s saying no to most of the time.

And she will spiral out of control for hours. We try ignoring her. We try figuring out what’s wrong. We offer possible solutions, we offer words of comfort, we offer hugs and reassurance and binkies and blankies. The other night she screamed through our entire night time routine (dinner, bath, jammies, teeth, book and bed) until I just closed the book (after one page – sorry, Pigeon) and laid next to her shushing her like she was a colicky newborn until she heaved herself to sleep.

The best part is she is FINE all day at daycare. I asked them and trust them to be honest with me. She eats fine, she naps like a champ, plays and shares and is generally a very pleasant young lady there.

I miss this chuckle head.
I miss this chuckle head.

So, what do we think, fellow moms? My first instinct is to blame teeth (Poor teeth. They get such a bad rap.), but I think she’s actually gotten all of them for at least a while now. Phase? Is this the Terrible Twos everyone warned me about?

12 thoughts on “Screamfest

  1. I think it’s the move. Sometimes something that seems simple to us is monumental to them. After our move we talked a lot about what we missed about the old house and what we liked about the new house. I also let the girls pick the colors for the new rooms. Driving by the house and talking about the new people helped too. Hang in there. I won’t say it’s a phase, but nothing lasts forever, right?

    1. It probably is the move (along with a new room in daycare and transitioning from a crib to a bed all in one week, OMG.), but she’s still so little that I can’t really have that conversation with her yet. I mean, I can, but I’m not sure she’ll get it. She just turned two. I’m thinking patience is in order which, yay, because, yeah, I’ve got an OVERSUPPLY of that. Sigh. Buck up, mama, right? 🙂

  2. Ohhhh isn’t it fun!? Josh does this from time to time, too. He just screamed for half the ride home from Target, in fact. A good old-fashioned “Stop it” “No YOU stop it” “No YOUUUU stop it!” fight between the boys. Such fun. 🙂

  3. I don’t know. My daughter started doing something similar recently. Mostly screaming and crying when things didn’t go her way or when I left the room– and she is 14 months. It can last awhile but it is on and off. A friend told me it might be that she cannot communicate yet and maybe try teaching her sign language. Distracting her seems to help. She is definitely still teething though.

  4. Aha, I’ve been there. As my friend says – when in doubt, more sleep, earlier bedtime. She’s probably tired. And also, toddlers’ worlds are super small, so every little thing out of place or not how they want it can seem devastating. Totally normal.

    My kid went through this. We tried not to give her too much attention over it, but were careful to be sure to acknowledge that she was upset. I mean, she’s allowed to get upset about this stuff. I tried to never say “please don’t cry.” Or to discount her feelings of being so totally upset. (Wouldn’t you hate it if your husband told you to stop crying about something that was upsetting you?)

    Sometimes we just had to walk away from her. This post makes me think of two things that made me laugh when we were going through this with our daughter. One is this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KpSfThUv_pc The kid stops crying when no one is paying attention and just follows them to the next room and then starts losing it again. I mean, come on – the video is called “Why Waste a Temper Tantrum When No One is Watching.” I’m cracking up now just watching it again. If you can’t laugh, you’ll cry, right?! And then there’s this website called Reasons My Son is Crying: http://www.reasonsmysoniscrying.com/
    It’s good to know your kid isn’t the only one who loses their sh*t over nothing.

    Best of luck to you!

    1. OMG that video has me cracking up!!!!!!!! I am totally posting it on the CTWM’s Facebook page later! Thank you!

    2. Ha! I’ve seen that video before, but had forgotten about it! Thank you for the reminder. You’re so right. Laugh or cry, right?!

  5. I love your writing style oh-so-much! Did this start around the time of the move? Maybe it’s a reaction to all the packing and being in a new environment??

    1. HAHAHAOMG. Yes! It DID start around the time of the move. What a dummy I am. That must be it!!! We moved AND transitioned her to a big girl bed at the same time. Good grief. Poor kid. Thank you, Michelle!

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