Five for Friday: Disjointed Thoughts On My Week in Parenting, Work and Life in General

What have I been up to?  A tubful of fun!  Photo by M. Dunn.
What have I been up to? A tubful of fun!  Photo by M. Dunn.

“Five for Friday” isn’t necessarily a regular thing on this blog, with me or anyone else.  It’s really my way of telling you that I don’t have enough at the moment to write one decently-lengthed solid post.  But I’ve seen this format on other blogs lately, and I really like it, so I’m going to give it a try:

1.  I have been thinking about what it would be like to have a third kid.  No, don’t monitor my weekly posts from here on looking for subtle clues, because there won’t be any.  I’m just saying, the thought crosses my mind from time to time.  Usually the specific thought it, “we would need to be a lot more financially stable before that could even remotely have a chance of happening, if at all.”

2.  With my 3-year-old about to start preschool, I have been thinking a lot about early childhood education, and about public school education in general.  Mostly, I realize that I am using this “early childhood education experience” as daycare.  It’s not that I don’t care at all about the quality of the teaching or what she’s learning about.  But if I were a SAHM, I don’t think I would rush to get my kid enrolled somewhere.  And if I did, it would likely be to give myself a break a few times during the week, rather than due to the value of the educational experience itself.  After all, I could be the one teaching her to read, if there were no teachers to do that for me.  On a related note, I finally decided to start following a group on Facebook for the website  Just doing research.  🙂

3.  I am trying to be more active and shed some of this post-post-pregnancy weight.  I started counting calories again, and I’m doing cardio and trying to add in strength training.  However, it is much harder 14 months after giving birth (the second time) than it was last year, when I lost a bunch of baby weight in the first several months post partum, but then hit a plateau.  With breastfeeding starting to decline for me, I’m not sure why this is.

4.  I have a sorely neglected education law blog that I am going to try to get back to working on next week.  The truth is, summer is a rough time to spend on marketing your business.  I thought I would have more time, since so much of my work follows the school year, but paradoxically, I have less than usual because the kids keep me so busy and there’s always overflow billable work (which is a good thing!) that leaves little time for anything else.  In general, I severely underestimated how busy raising two kids under three years old would keep me, and how hard it is to run a business while doing this — if you want to make any money, anyway.

5.  I went to a candle party recently.  You know, one of those parties where a representative from one of those catalog companies shows you all the products and then you order stuff?  I went not because I was excited about candles, but to see old friends who I have not seen for far too long, even though they live relatively nearby.  That was a great idea.  But then I bought $170 worth of candles and candle-related merchandise.  I’m not even sure how that happened.  The person who sold me this stuff is really good at what she does.  And I was preoccupied with wrangling the kids while the ordering was going on, so that probably helped her.  I was going to schedule my own candle party for the end of September, until I came to my senses and realized everything I wrote in item #4 above.

Have a great weekend everyone!

7 thoughts on “Five for Friday: Disjointed Thoughts On My Week in Parenting, Work and Life in General

  1. I am so bad about being talked into buying things I don’t need – I’ve had to stop going to ‘Sell Something’ parties, because I end up convinced I have to order everything.

  2. Loved this, haha, partly because it was a very long night here and my thoughts are very scattered this morning, so I liked reading the five mini posts 🙂

    As a an elementary school teacher who has been mostly at home with my boys during the early childhood years, I am actually still choosing to pay a considerable sum to send them elsewhere for preschool. It’s isn’t for the break, because honestly, by the time I drop my son off in the next town over at preschool, re-loaded the baby and I into the car and drove home, it’s already nearly time to go back and pick him up. It’s also a co-op, so I end up volunteering there a lot, which ends up being more work (and cost) than if I just kept him home. For me, early childhood education is important for three reasons: 1) It gets him to socialize with other kids his age in a new environment, which I see as a huge kindergarten (and life!) success skill. We do a lot of play groups and library programs, but those have a very different feel. He has to learn that if there’s a problem, he can’t run to me, but either has to solve it on his own, or approach the teacher and put the problem coherently into words. 2) I want the boys to learn to listen to an adult who isn’t in our family before they begin school. 3) Especially with full day kindergarten, I want them to be comfortable separating from me for short periods of time starting at an early age, and be mixed into a loud classroom filled with other kids who are different from themselves, before they start all-day school.

    Anyway, just thought I’d share my reasons for not keeping them home full-time even though it would have perhaps made more financial sense. I always think sending them to preschool is a good move. I’m sure your daughter will thrive in her new program! And, interestingly, I don’t even worry about the learning to read aspects of ECE. It’s more about the intangible things for me.

    1. I think these are great reasons for preschool. My guess is that it also depends on the individual child’s temperament and personality. I think if I were home and not working at all, I would send Mackenzie to the free magnet preschool during normal school hours, and not worry about the wrap-around care, or stress about keeping her home when I feel like it. In other words, it would be for reasons a lot like yours. Needing to put kids in preschool (and before that, infant/toddler care) primarily because of your own unavailability during working hours gives it a different feel, I think. The socialization is a huge thing for me too. If left to my own devices, I would probably never take the kids anywhere. We went to the park yesterday, to give my husband a break and get the house clean, etc., and it really just wasn’t my thing. It was hot, I was bored, and I couldn’t wait to get out of there. At least with the preschool, the socialization piece is taken care of for me.

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