35 Things I’ve Learned in 35 Years

I have been living in a state of disbelief that I am 35 years old. How did it happen? Where did the time go? Does that really make me an adult now? I feel like I am 21. And at under 5 feet tall, I can sneak in with a group of fifth graders on a field trip and pass as a 10-year-old.

It’s not that I’m unhappy with my age or feel “old,” it just seems as though the past three years since I have been pregnant and became a mother have flown by SO fast. It’s like someone floored the accelerator on my life and here I am, halfway through my thrilling thirties.

As I pondered the speed at which my life was going, I came across this blog post on a woman who documented fifty-five things she learned in her 55 years. It inspired me to take stock on my life and draft a list of my own.

So here’s my list of 35 Things I’ve Learned in 35 Years:

1. Be kind to yourself, ALWAYS.

2. True love grows everyday

3. LAUGH – at yourself, at your situation, at your kid(s).

4. Hard work does yield reward, but it can take a really, really, really long time to reap those benefits.

5. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people. You will feel the weight of the world lifted from your shoulders.

6. Take a one week vacation every few months.

7. Drinking lots of water is not only good for you, but is a great anxiety reliever and mood lifter.

8. So is red wine.

9. And a good Guiness draught.

10. A deep tissue massage is not a luxury, but a necessity.

11. Find a way to hire a cleaning lady. It’s better to spend free time with family and friends, than scrubbing toilets.

12. Having it all means being happy and totally at peace with your decisions.

13. Parenthood is a humbling experience that kicks you in the ass everyday.

14. This one I stole from Eleanor Roosevelt: “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face…You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

15. Complicated and challenging situations usually work themselves out.

16. Never fight fire with fire. It’s not worth the energy and destruction.

17. Sex is the cure for most anything – anxiety, boredom, whatever.

18. Sometimes I have to sacrifice style for comfort. That means trading 4 inch strappy heels for flip-flops in the summer <sigh>.

19. Never tweeze your eyebrows when drunk.

20. Trust your instinct. That little voice inside your head knows what it’s talking about.

21. Choose a profession that makes you happy so that you enjoy waking up in the morning.

22. A smile can disarm someone better than a rude remark. Especially if you’re wearing lip gloss.

23. Beer before liquor really does make you sicker.

24. The best decisions I made are the ones that were least understood by others.

25. Living in Washington D.C. for a few years was awesome but made me appreciate suburban life.

26. Dating is a game of numbers. You have to date a lot of “people that aren’t right for you” before you find the only one that is.

27. If you drive off with the gas nozzle still in your car’s fuel tank, the hose will rip right off the gas pump.

28. Motherhood brought meaning to the phrase “one day at a time.”

29. Read the label. If I can’t pronounce the ingredients, I am not eating it or slathering it on my body (see Dena’s Cleaner Living Series).

30. My daughter is my greatest accomplishment

31. Count your blessings everyday.

32. Getting your hair trimmed and colored does wonders for the soul.

33. Coming up with 35 things I have learned is harder than I thought it would be.

34. There are a lot of things I still haven’t figured out.

35. Being 35 aint so bad.

Wow, that took a lot out of me to write! I encourage you to do this exercise. It may take a couple of days, but it is very eye-opening. Or, you could simply share with us your top 3 life lessons in the comments section. I can’t say I do all of these things, all of the time. But at least I have this list as a guide if I lose my way. A list that will keep growing, just like me.

Wishing you all peace, youthfulness, and self-awareness!

15 thoughts on “35 Things I’ve Learned in 35 Years

  1. Yes girl! more of this! You really had me nodding my head at a lot of your MG-isms. I loved reading this post- and reaffirmed my convictions that yes, mid-week wine is a necessity! xoxo

  2. Love this post. I laughed out loud a couple of times…did you really drive away with the gas nozzle still in your car? When I was in high school I locked the car keys in the car while the car was still on in the school parking lot. You should have seen me trying to get a ride home to find a spare key…LOL

    And I so agree about surrounding yourself with positive people. Negativity can really drag you down. Plus the time does fly after you have kids, not by days or minutes but by seconds. In the word of Blench Devero the character from the Golden Girls “Children are like talking calendars”

    1. Um, yes…I actually did drive away with the gas nozzle still in the car. WHOOPS! A really nice off-duty firefighter who happened to be there calmed me down and told me it happens all the time and there are safety mechanisms in place so that gas doesn’t spill everywhere. My husband was in the convenience store when it happened and he told me the whole place was laughing at me. Great. BTW – Love the Golden Girls!

  3. LOVE this post Mary Grace! BTW, 35 is NOT old…I like to think we are in our prime. I don’t know about you but I was much too naive in my 20s 🙂

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