Fake it ’til You Make it

As you are well aware, ctworkingmoms.com has been receiving quite a bit of attention in the media lately for our post-baby bellies photo shoot. The message is so important and so powerful – we need to not only accept our bodies, but embrace them, especially since those bodies are what helped to give our beautiful children life!

Although I was not one of the bloggers photographed, I am so unbelievably proud of the ladies who did and feel extremely honored to have the opportunity to blog alongside them for ctworkingmoms.com! That being said, all this attention has made me think about my personal struggle with my body image. I am just a few days shy of my 29th birthday and looking back it seems as if I have struggled with my body image for as long as I can remember. Ok, that’s a slight exaggeration – but definitely since my early elementary school days. It was then that I began to struggle with my weight. Since then I have never felt very comfortable in my own skin. It’s been a roller-coaster ride of ups and downs, highs and lows. In high school I became a bit obsessed with being “skinny.” I equated thin with being beautiful and therefore thought the thinner I could be, the better. I remember starving myself and forcing myself to exercise until I felt like I would vomit. It was during this time I began dating my first serious boyfriend (who is now my husband) and thankfully he was not looking for an anorexic girlfriend. Sometimes one of the first things he would ask me when we would get together was “What did you eat today?” His concern was a big reason I stopped obsessing with being super thin and starving myself.

Here is some alarming information:

According to the National Institute of Mental Health girls are more than two and a half times as likely as boys to have an eating disorder. The South Carolina Department of Mental Health estimates that 8 million Americans (seven million women and one million men) have an eating disorder.

I am now the mother of two young daughters. Caroline is two and Emma is eight weeks old. I want nothing more for them than to have a positive self-image. The thought of either of my girls developing an eating disorder really scares me. It’s too easy to get caught up with the unattainable expectations that society puts on women to look a certain way. Eat healthy and exercise? Yes. But you should not feel pressure to look like a supermodel!

As I get older, I am becoming more comfortable with who I am and loving myself a little more as well. However, I definitely have low moments where I long to be the size I was in high school or even college and feel bad for my husband because I am not as thin as I once was. That needs to stop. Right here, right now. My body is beautiful – it gave birth to two amazing little girls. I…am…a…goddess! There, I said it, and I will keep saying it until I completely believe it. Until then, I guess I will fake it ’til I make it. But I’m making it a little more every day!

My family


Have you ever struggled with an eating disorder or know someone who has? What advice do you have for other mothers worried about their child(ren) developing an eating disorder (i.e. anorexia or bulimia)?





7 thoughts on “Fake it ’til You Make it

  1. God bless you ladies!! You all seem so wonderful and non judgmental and I’m glad the positive message you have conveyed is influencing the way ladies of all ages think of themselves! I know you have been an inspiration to me and I’m 20 without kids! Good for you girls!

  2. Thank you for your message. I LOVE the GODDESSES! While I am not always happy with my body – I do what I can to improve through healthy foods and exercise. Strength goes a long way to making me feel powerful. I resent the media trying to make us all feel we should always be thin. My college roommate has struggled with food her entire adult life and I always tell her she is beautiful just the way she is! You go girl!

  3. Great post Carly. I too struggle with body image…but also the fact that I just can’t get motivated to make a change. I’m an emotional eater and that has caused me to pack on the pounds the last several years…and by “several” I mean since college. My weight really contributes to my low self esteem and causes me to be afraid to try new things, make new friends etc. I’ve also felt lucky to have sons instead of daughters because there are body traits that I’m happy to not pass down. I love your fake it til you make it idea. I’m going to adopt that attitude starting now. Really great post. Thanks.

  4. Everybody is beautiful in their own way but loving your body is definitely the most important item. We all want what we “think” we should have but we are all made the way we are for a reason. Being a positive role model to your daughters and having them see you for the wonderful person you are is far more important than exercising and starving yourself to death to satisfy what you think society wants you to look like. All the women in the photo were beautiful and happy and it warmed my heart to see!! Please keep doing what you are doing with all that wonderful positive energy!!

  5. I have had a hard time embracing my post “babies” body. Thank you! I have three beautiful children, my oldest is 6 years, the next is 2 years, and my youngest is 6 months. I can honestly say I have never been ashamed of my stretch marks b/c they are so special… my babies gave them to me. I look at them and remember all the little moves and kicks. I know exactly which marks were made by each child. They also remind me of the hard work I did to push my babies out.

  6. Thank you so much for this post and the fab message you are all sharing. I have the most beautiful boys 4 years and 6 months. Until a couple of hours ago I was not loving my post baby self. I am beginning to let the I should be thinner go and love my body!!!! I am going to be 40 this year and they are still the biggest best thing I have done!!! (and I served 10 years in the Navy) I am so happy I found you all on the web!!!
    Thank you and I embrace my 39 year old post babies body!!!!

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