It seems like like my kids are always at the forefront of my mind. I mean, my nearly-three-year-old doesn’t really let you forget her for a second. She’s loud like that.

They always come first. And I honestly wouldn’t change that if I could. But, sometimes? I forget just how much my life has changed since they came rolling into town.

I was recently presented with a job opportunity that, prior to children, I would have jumped through hoops of fire to get. Everything was awesome: the position, the location, the pay… Everything except the hours.

After debating all aspects, pros and cons of me going back to work full time, my husband and I agreed that I would decline. It was so much harder than I thought it would be. I was EXCITED about this prospect. Excited that someone thought I was capable of filling such a challenging role. Excited over the extra money I could be contributing to our household. I felt sad.


I gazed over at these two:

and I wasn’t sad anymore. Being available for them is pretty incredible. We’re very lucky that I even have the ability to make the decision to decline a bigger role right now. The girls are still so little. We’ve had a few weeklong illnesses this winter and I’m glad I’m in a job that allows me the flexibility to work when I can in those instances.

Having them home with me two days a week isn’t always a fairytale. There are tantrums. Oh, the epic tantrums. There is a lot of sweeping up Cheerios and wiping yogurt from under the table (How? What? I don’t even ask anymore), a lot of inspecting Audrey’s toys to make sure Olivia hasn’t planted Play-Doh there. Again. A lot of nap boycotts and diaper blowouts and potty standoffs.

But there’s also a lot of this…

and I know that right now, my priorities are exactly as they should be.

6 thoughts on “Priorities

  1. I totally agree with this. I currently work full time but I work from home and have a nanny here with me and the kids during the day. My manager keeps pushing me to go out for promotions and “enhance my development,” become a manager. I’ve done that in the past and, like you said, in a previous life I would have jumped at the chance. But now it’s different. I wouldn’t change my current situation for the world. It would be great to be able to be a stay at home mom while my kids are little, but that’s just not an option financially. This is the best of both worlds — I get to be here with them every day, feed them lunch and kiss every boo boo, yet I still get PAID to do work in my basement office/playroom. Perfect!

  2. Thanks, ladies. And I should have included that I am in AWE of parents who both work full time. ABSOLUTE AWE. I only work three days a week and still feel like I don’t get even 60% of my “stuff” done at home.

  3. I love this and it is so true to my life (except I didn’t recently get a great job offer) but even if I did, I know I would make the same decision you did. They are only little for such a short time and you will never look back and say “I spent too much time with them.” Great post and such cute litle girls!

  4. Oh how they change our lives! In so many ways we never expected. Great article!! (and great photos too!!!)

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